Let’s just be honest – being a caregiver sucks.
Well, that’s how I started a blog that was to post Nov. 12. However, on Nov.7, my BFF passed away from complications of liver disease. Needless to say, I would much rather be a caregiver than a widow. I’ll leave part of my original blog, but I will modify it.
Being a caregiver takes so much energy. To help me with energy, I try to get in bed by 10:00 p.m. Of course, that rarely happens, so I take Vitamin B and B-12. Grocery shopping and picking up medicines seems like a daily “to-do.” Deciding on what’s for dinner and then making it is stressful. Doctor appointments are time consuming, so I take my laptop or a book to read and try to make use of the wait time. And there is always Facebook to catch up on, of course!
For Allen’s energy conservation, he needed to combine trips from one end of the house to the other. For example, he would take the empty plate to the kitchen while getting more tea. Since taking a shower uses a great deal of energy, it was suggested that he take showers at night instead of in the morning.
To conserve household energy, we enrolled in average billing for our electric and gas bills. Since Allen was home all day, the lights & TV were on just about 24/7. He learned to sleep whether it was dark or very bright! We also changed our light bulbs to the energy-efficient ones.
How do you help someone you love feel useful when they feel anything but? Try to involve them in anything you do. Encourage your loved one as much as you can on a daily basis. A strong support system of family, friends and awesome coworkers helped me (us) get through the struggles.
I recall a dear friend once made a statement about her husband, “I am blessed to have him here, even with the little irritations, as opposed to not having him here at all.” Something to ponder! Now, more than ever, that statement holds so very true. Be sure to tell your family and friends how much you love them and how special they are to you!
I’d love to hear your stories about being a caregiver and ways to conserve energy too!